Monday, August 22, 2011

Marriage From a Kids Perspective

Have I mentioned how much I love StumbleUpon? Seriously, I'm obsessed. I found another adorable post, Marriage From a Kids Perspective. It's a collection of answers kids gave to questions about marriage and it is so adorable! 
Some of my favorites....

Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.
-- Camille, age 10

When they're rich.
-- Pam, age 7

The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to mess with
- - Curt, age 7

The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry
them and have kids with them. It's the right thing to do.
- - Howard, age 8

Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a dump
-- Ricky, age 10
Ricky has the right idea, that's for sure. Hope you enjoyed reading that as much as I did! 

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Your Message on a T-Shirt

So when I filled you in on my trip to California, I forgot to mention this. When we go to these conventions, we usually only see a few of the speeches since we are working at the booth most of the time. We always go to the opening session and the speaker at this session never fails to make me cry with how powerful their message is. This time was no different. The opening session speech was really great, but she talked about one thing that stuck with me. She asked if you could put your message on a t-shirt, what would it say? I immediately started asking that question around the office and to my coworkers on the trip with me and we all had something completely different to say. I have a lot of little phrases that I try to live by, but immediately I knew that if I could put my message on a t-shirt, it would read:

“Enthusiasm is Contagious.”

This is a phrase my very good friend Theresa introduced to me in college. She would always say that when we got discouraged working with others on a project or event. I’ve learned how true this statement is and it’s something I really try to live by. Enthusiasm really is contagious and I guarantee if you project enthusiasm, others will mirror it! Thank you Theresa for teaching me to think this way and I remind myself of this at least once a day.

So I’m turning it over to you guys…if you could put your message to the world on a t-shirt, what would it say?

Sunday, August 14, 2011

I Talked to The Umpire and Can't Even Come Up With a Cute Title

I finally had the conversation with The Umpire last week and it went better than I expected, which actually made it harder. I basically told him I wasn’t happy and didn’t know what to do about it…that maybe we moved too fast and never just knew each other. We met and started dating and maybe we need to just take a step back and be in each other’s lives without being in a relationship for a while. I told him that while I am really indecisive about silly things, when it comes to life decisions and relationships, I always know exactly what I want and how I feel. The fact that I don’t know how I feel about us isn’t fair to him or me.

I don’t really know what I was expecting, but he was so completely sweet and understanding it kind of made me wonder what the hell I was doing. He made it clear that he genuinely cares about me and went out of his way to make sure I knew he didn’t hate me, that he could never hate me.

Since we talked, he has been great about keeping in touch, saying hi when he wants to and asking me to hang out and I couldn’t ask for a better scenario right now. Maybe a step back was all I needed and things may become a lot clearer now that we aren’t so enthralled in an exclusive relationship. Could we get back together eventually? Who knows. I’m not ruling it out. Anything could happen, you just have to remember that you are doing the right thing and that everything will work out. 

Thursday, August 11, 2011

A Life of “Oh Wells”

I have a lot of random stories to share. I’m hoping to have more time to write this weekend and fill you in. 
In the midst of my life lately, I’ve been thinking a lot and there have been a few times where I’ve started to beat myself up a little bit. I saw this quote a few weeks ago and I’ve been thinking of it a lot lately…

When I think about some of the decisions I’ve made whether they have been irresponsible, impulsive or just the right thing to do…I know for a fact I would rather look back and laugh…or cry…or both, than to wish I had done it.

I may be too impulsive and I don’t always do the right thing, but whenever I start to give myself a hard time, I remind myself that I am young and that you only live once. It’s not often I find myself wondering ‘what if?’ and I’m glad because I would go crazy. I know I’m already a little nutty, but because of that I can laugh at the stuff that happens and just say ‘oh well!'

What do you find yourself saying more often?

Sunday, August 7, 2011

California Girl

My trip to California was everything I hoped it would be. I had a great time with my coworkers, met a lot of great people, worked really hard but had a lot of fun, too.  We even came back with a handful of new clients and I found that clarity I needed when it comes to The Umpire. Where do I start? I think I’ll break this up into sections because there is just too much to cover!

Highlights of my Trip 
My boss took us to Disneyland for the day before the convention started and even treated us to lunch at Club 33! Walking around Disneyland in July is by far much more enjoyable than Disney World this time of year. The sun is shining, it is beautiful, but California doesn’t have the Florida humidity that makes you feel like you might pass out.

Sparkly Minnie ears were a must!
Riding the train
While at the convention, my boss paid for us to get professional headshots taken for our website and marketing materials, which meant getting our makeup and hair professionally done, resulting in everyone calling me Elle Woods/PR Barbie for the rest of the convention. Either way, I can’t wait to see how the photos came out!

If any of you watched Jake’s season of The Bachelor on ABC, you might remember Michelle. She was the one who had the painfully awkward kiss with Jake and was rarely shown on camera not crying. This is so random, but I met her! She was serving drinks at the hotel bar and I immediately recognized her. It took me a minute to figure out who she was and afraid that she might go crazy on me, I finally said “Please don’t get upset with me, but were you on The Bachelor?” She was actually really nice about and I even got a picture with her so I could show my girlfriends back at home. Too funny!
Michelle from The Bachelor
The Umpire: A Tough Call
I set off to California hoping that some distance would help me decide if I wanted to end things with The Umpire. I haven’t gone too much in detail about things, but I haven’t been completely satisfied with how things were with us lately. I feel like things started off really great and maybe we moved too fast, because all of the things I really liked about him at first either changed or started to become an issue for me. When we first started seeing each other, it was like he couldn’t get enough of me. He would invite me out with his friends all the time and while I told him I didn’t want to intrude on boy’s night, he would also comfort me saying he wanted me there and we’d always have a blast. He was really sweet and thoughtful and went out of his way for me. We made equal effort. It seemed like the moment I let me guard down and started opening up to him, all that behavior stopped. I understand that there comes a point in most relationships where that initial excitement fades and maybe my expectations are too high, but I need more…especially when we are only a few months in. When I first met The Umpire, I really loved how fun he was. He liked to be social and go out like I did. We could go out together with a group and have a blast. I recently started to realize that he took that a little too far. I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite because I often go out on weeknights and stay out a little too late, but I feel like going out with your guy friends to the same bar, three nights in a row is a bit much when you are 28-years-old. I don’t know if these things bothered me because I really care about him or because I am subconsciously sabotaging things, but either way it isn’t good. There are things I really like…I love his family, I have fun with him, he is successful and hard working.

The moment of clarity I was looking for came on Saturday. I had been in California for three days and Saturday was the first official day of the convention. I was already in a funk because he hadn’t been in touch with me very much and didn’t seem to be bothered at all by the fact that I was away. I spent 8 hours on my feet working our booth at the convention and I was exhausted. When I looked at my phone realized I hadn’t heard from him all day, I simply texted, “I’m exhausted.” His response? “OK.” OK? Really? I wasn’t looking for a pity party, but a little bit of positivity or consideration would’ve gone a long way. One of the biggest things I try to bring to a relationship is emotional balance. When my friend, my sister, my significant other or my coworker is feeling down, tired or sad, I try to balance that out with positivity, support, enthusiasm….whatever I think will help. I kind of expect the person I am with to be that person for me. I know it probably sounds like I am being dramatic, but his response really bothered me. While it isn’t the single reason I decided to end things, it gave me that “moment” I needed to finally make up my mind. There are so many things I like about him and has a lot of what I need in a relationship…a good family, a good job, a good social life and so much more. But I need emotional support too, and I think that is where we are lacking.

While I made the decision during my trip, I really wanted to have a face-to-face conversation with him and explain where I am coming from. We live in the same area, go to the same gym…we have kickball coming up. I want to be able to end things on a good note. Anyway, I am home now and have yet to have a face-to-face conversation with The Umpire. When I told him we needed to talk, he said he was “going out with the guys and could we do it tomorrow?” That solidified my decision, but our schedules haven’t lined up for me to officially break things off with him. I hope this is the right decision, but that’s the thing about decisions…you don’t always know if they are the right one until it might be too late. You can only act based on what you feel and right now, I just don’t feel like this is right.


Thursday, August 4, 2011

Date a Girl Who Reads


I'm back from California after a long, super busy and super fun week of work and play! There is a lot I want to tell you about, but I am buried in laundry, mail and really just want some time to relax. In the meantime, my wonderful mother shared a blog post with me while I was away and I loved it so much I just had to share it with you all! It's called Date a Girl Who Reads. If you love to read as much as I do, you will love this! Other than the fact that I can relate to so much in this post, it inspired me to write a post along the same theme. So I'm working on that and I'm going to set aside some time this weekend to tell you all about my trip and where I stand on my feelings for The Umpire after having some time to think. 

I hope you are all having a happy week! Keep smiling!